It’s the final week of my twenties. Seems like a good time to look back over the decade to tell you what I’ve learnt!
Cancer isn’t over
Cancer has been physically over for seventeen years. While that sentence brings me untold pleasure, I’ve had to come to terms with the fact that cancer isn’t over for me emotionally. I go into denial about this at times; just recently I burst into tears about it a few moments after saying I was ‘over’ my cancer diagnosis. However, deep down I understand that cancer still moves me deeply and still is an issue full of emotion, confusion and anger for me. It will always be a part of the fabric of my life.
I can hit rock bottom and rise again
During my early twenties, I thought that life had conspired to tie me up in knots in such a way that there was no way I would ever be free. I would never overcome the obstacles placed in my way. I can look back on those feelings now with a clarity that yes, life may knock me down, but I will always get back on my feet.
I know who I can trust
Those difficult school and uni years when I didn’t know who my true friends were… Luckily now, I only spend time and invest my feelings in relationships that are worth my time. My core circle consists of Oliver and my parents, then we have a circle of friends who I value and trust.
I need to be open
You know how some people can tell you all about themselves as soon as you meet them? I’m not like that at all and I’m trying to be more open about myself in person.
Self care is non-negotiable
There are a few things that I don’t skimp on. I’m an introvert and I value time to myself. I take time to do something I enjoy everyday, whether that’s go for a walk or read a chapter of a book. I also always get enough sleep. It makes my life so much easier!
What love and a longterm relationship mean
I’m not going to write it here, but I have all the feels.
I’ve known some people to get really anxious about turning 30. Well, I’m ready. I’m going calmly into this new decade.