It’s the final week of my twenties.  Seems like a good time to look back over the decade to tell you what I’ve learnt!

Cancer isn’t over

Cancer has been physically over for seventeen years.  While that sentence brings me untold pleasure, I’ve had to come to terms with the fact that cancer isn’t over for me emotionally.  I go into denial about this at times; just recently I burst into tears about it a few moments after saying I was ‘over’ my cancer diagnosis.  However, deep down I understand that cancer still moves me deeply and still is an issue full of emotion, confusion and anger for me.  It will always be a part of the fabric of my life.

I can hit rock bottom and rise again

During my early twenties, I thought that life had conspired to tie me up in knots in such a way that there was no way I would ever be free.  I would never overcome the obstacles placed in my way.  I can look back on those feelings now with a clarity that yes, life may knock me down, but I will always get back on my feet.

I know who I can trust

Those difficult school and uni years when I didn’t know who my true friends were… Luckily now, I only spend time and invest my feelings in relationships that are worth my time.  My core circle consists of Oliver and my parents, then we have a circle of friends who I value and trust.

I need to be open

You know how some people can tell you all about themselves as soon as you meet them?  I’m not like that at all and I’m trying to be more open about myself in person.

Self care is non-negotiable

There are a few things that I don’t skimp on.  I’m an introvert and I value time to myself.  I take time to do something I enjoy everyday, whether that’s go for a walk or read a chapter of a book.  I also always get enough sleep.  It makes my life so much easier!

What love and a longterm relationship mean

I’m not going to write it here, but I have all the feels.

 I’m ready

I’ve known some people to get really anxious about turning 30.  Well, I’m ready.  I’m going calmly into this new decade.

  • I’m happy for you. Turning 30 can be a great moment, for me it was amazing (not sure I will say the same about turning 40 though).
    I finished your book, it was a very interesting read. xx

  • Thanks so much Anca xx

  • Happy birthday! Personally, I can’t wait to turn 30. Maybe I have too high hopes for it, but one reason I look forward to it is that I’ve been told the symptoms associated with my mental illness, Borderline Personality Disorder, often, not always but often, ease, or disappear completely, at 30. Something to do with the changing brain chemistry. So that’s what I’m looking forward to about turning 30. Also putting into practice all that wisdom! Haha. This is a great post – it seems like you’ve learnt some valuable and important lessons and are now ready for your 30’s 🙂 x x

  • That’s really interesting Aimee, I didn’t know that. Thanks! xx

  • Lifethrough Tsg

    This is a beautiful post, I love this kind of post!
    I especially like the 2nd and 5th points, you’ve got to look after yourself first and knowing you can get back up from rock bottom is also really important. I really enjoyed this post, thanks for sharing!
    Hayley X

  • Thank you for sharing this heartfelt post, Llinos! I totally agree that self care is an essential part of life, you can’t function well and do the best you can without looking after yourself! I am in my 20s currently and I’m definitely learning about the meaning of true friendship! Life never runs of things to teach us!

    Abbey 🌸

  • Just Joelle

    Such an amazing post, thank you for sharing. Hope you have the best birthday 🙂 Cant wait to see what the future holds for you X

  • Aw thanks Hayley for the lovely sentiments xx

  • Aw thank you lovely Joelle. I need to blog about my birthday soon, oops!

  • I must seem ancient to you haha! I don’t think life ever stops teaching us, which is part of the glory of it.

  • I love this post!
    I strugglw to remember to do self care a lot. I’m taking this as a reminder to actually do some self care today!


  • I hope you do, it’s so important!

  • Geet Singh

    Self care is so important, such a lovely post! Thank you for sharing 🙂

  • Aw thanks Geet 🙂

  • WonderfullyBookish

    I think more people need to remember to reflect on what they’ve learned, and the more positive things! Really like this post 🙂

  • Thank you! It’s definitely felt like a time for reflection.

  • Ella Ames

    Well written. And I hope thirty is treating you well!:)

  • Thanks so much Ella!